Back in February of this year, I ordered a dress from Big On Batik. Now, I have drooled over their clothes for a long time, and they finally had one of the dresses I adored on sale. Even though it wasn't one of my 2 standard colors (red and black) I ordered it.

And, I love this dress. Which you can see on this page. The fabric is divine, absolutely creamy feeling on my skin, the colors are brilliant and just fabulous. the fit? It's like they designed it specifically for my body. It tucked in perfectly at my waist, slid over my breasts, and danced over my hips.

I wore it last weekend for the first time. The compliments I got on that dress absolutely made my day. I didn't get as many compliments in my wedding dress! I want, no, I need, more of their clothes. I want a wardrobe full of them to wear everywhere. If you need a dress (or other items) go there, they are wonderful.

Note to those drifting in here. I am not the woman Joelle and Mikey are discussing. Nope, not me. Joelle and I are adults and have agreed to disagree. I actually think Joelle's a pretty decent person from our contact.

So, if you're coming here from her site, you are more than welcome, I enjoy new visitors. But, the emails and comments? You are directing them at the wrong woman.

If you wish to call someone names or insult them? You need to get a life. And leave me the hell alone. I've deleted a shitload of comments in the mast week or so and any that continue with the hatred? Gone. As for emails? You do realize that leaves your headers and information entirely intact, right?

Now, go, get a life, while I get back to mine.

Fat Girl Feel Good:

- The next time you go out, whether it's to the grocery store, the gas station, the post office, or just to sit on your porch, put on your favorite outfit. The one that makes you feel sexy, that gives you confidence.

If you don't have an outfit like that, buy one.

- Buy clothes that fit not just your body, but your personality. If you're a wild girl, show it. Yes, I know that a lot of fat chicks clothes suck, but there are a lot more choices with internet shopping.

- Buy clothes that fit. You don't need a shapeless sack. Pick the body part you like the most and highlight it. If you have incredible legs, wear that short skirt. Cleavage to die for? That low cut va-va-voom shirt needs to be in your wardrobe.

- Wear some color. I know the magazines tell you to wear black to look thinner. Guess what? Black only cuts 10 pounds from you. 10 pounds is not worth losing all the colors in the world. Buy a gorgeous red top, wear that bright blue skirt, order that purple dress. Colors are your friend. And I say this as someone who's main wardrobe colors are red and black. I'm trying to branch out.

- Refuse to wear the fat chick uniform. You know the one, if you're in your teens and 20s it is a pair of jeans and a t-shirt that is 4 sizes too big, if your older than that it's a shapeless top and/or shapeless dress. Go beyond the norm.

- Own at least one piece of jewelry that makes you feel good. It doesn't have to be an expensive piece or even real. My favorite (other than my wedding band) is a huge pair of silver hoops, I adore them and I feel good in them.

- Be happy in your body, smile, damnit, and fuck anyone who doesn't like how you dress.

Robyn of One Fat Bitchypoo writes in response to April's Playboy:

"I can’t seem to find the words to describe to you the utter horror I felt when I read the above response in PLAYBOY magazine, a response I feel is pure and utter crap. It makes me sad and angry that JS in Oakley will read and believe what this faceless, unimportant guy thinks, and she will close her heart to possibility. She’ll give up on the idea that someone could love her for who she is, and find her appealing and sexy no matter her size. She will so fully believe what this man has told her that when she is minding her own business at the book store and a man looks at her and smiles, she will not for one moment believe that he could find her attractive, that he is thinking about how fat she is, and she will scowl at him until he turns away. "

You need to read the whole entry/article at her site.

My thoughts?: I'm done with Playboy, as well. Robyn and I discussed our oddity of being women who enjoyed Playboy some time back. There is no writing in the world worth supporting them, after this.

I've written them about this and will no longer purchase Playboy. I refuse to support fat hate in any way, shape, or form.