Fat Bottomed Girls

A Fat Positive site, focusing on women who are fat and not ashamed of it.

Friday, February 13, 2004

Holy Shit. As I'm redoing this site, I republished comments, and it seems I missed a lot of them. I'm sorry about that, but, I'm catching up now. If I had seen them originally, I would have commented back.

As for the ones who posted nasty stuff, here's a place for you Go Fuck Yourself Hee. Also, for the one who wouldn't date me? I'm married, happily, and have been for 5 years. Sorry for your luck.

Now, onto what we're here for, fat stuff.

Sasha (whom I adore) made a comment about losing weight and exercise. I am not against weight loss, or exercise. Not at all, what I have a problem with (and Sasha agrees) is being forced to fit some ideal weight that others determine for me.

No one has the right to tell me that I have to lose weight to fit society's beauty ideals. Hell, even if I lost the weight, I would still not fit the tall (I'm short), long legged (I have very short legs), perfect breasted (perky, I have never been) ideals. Nor would I want to fit those ideals. I don't want to be a generic, cookie cutter, airbrushed person.

What joy is there in fitting one standard?

I find joy in myself, from my fat legs to my fat face. My husband squeezes me to him and caresses all of me, even my stomach, which is large and squishy. I look into a mirror and I see me. And that me is fat.


Last week, I was watching my niece, Kyrsie. She's four years old and you know how honest kids are. They say what they feel, they don't have the capacity to tell little white lies.

You know what she told me? "Aunt Pooh, you're fat."

"Yes, sweetheart, I'm fat." I replied.

"I like your tummy, it's soft. You're pretty, Pooh. "

She's a sweet kid, one who hasn't been touched by society's fat hatred, yet. I'm working with her. I want her to understand that fat is not bad. I want her to love her body, whether she's fat or thin, short or tall. I want her to be 14 and not have been on a diet for 3 years because she thinks she's fat.

I want her to love her body, in all its wonder. You only get one in this life.

And I don't just want it for her, I want it for every little girl out there. I want them to love themselves, to recognize that their body is a good one, no matter what it looks like.

Have a great Friday.