Fat Bottomed Girls

A Fat Positive site, focusing on women who are fat and not ashamed of it.

Sunday, September 08, 2002

Witchwomban's Guide to Self Love:

* Bless your self in the mirror. Look for your beauty and claim it.

* Adorn yourself thoughtfully and joyfully. Wear color and texture, and sparkle. Be visible.

* Do not let anyone hear you say anything negative about your body. If others folks hear you bash yourself, they take it as an invitation to do so also.

* Do not let anyone "fat bash" in your presence. (but find clever and cutting ways to check folks.) It engages your creativity and stops you from feeling ashamed and humiliated.( Look at the book- Fat So for Marilyn Wann for many for many oh so snappy replies. )

* Remember some little fat girl may be observing you. Let her see that you love your life and that you walk in grace and beauty.

* Know that guys who accept fat women (but who don't fetishize them ) are stronger and way cooler then guys who fixate on "the accepted standard of beauty". Same goes for women. Women who see beauty in big women are gifts of the Goddess.

* Don't wait to live until you lose x pounds.

* Say this prayer as you eat. " Goddess bless this food and may it serve my body and enable me to dance with you in greater health, self love, joy and purpose, Blessed be."

* Have safe and healing women to talk with about the story of your body. Look to find your own authentic wise voice when it comes to making changes in your body or your weight. If you decide to lose weight, do it from a place of great self love and kindness and not from self hatred and fear.

* Study pleasure- Scents, colors, sites, sounds. Find all kinds of ways to please your self and know what pleases you. ( Origins Ginger body scrub is my favorite guilty pleasure. )

* Stop the habit of looking to see if your are the fattest woman in the room. It's not good for you, and does not cultivate sisterhood.

* Move that body- Claim your right to dance, swim, run, skate, fuck, what ever..

* Remember. You are Goddess.